Masculinity In Crisis: The silent struggle.

20/06/2015

There is an issue we need to address. Let’s call it “Blaming men.” Constantly we hear “Oh it’s a man’s world”, “Oh men are privileged”, “We need equal rights!” “Men oppress women!” “Men are sexist!”

But do we see any major female associated crises? As far as the western world goes, no. Do we have a major masculinity crisis in men today? Yes. So maybe… Just maybe, we should stop attacking and belittling men.

Firstly, I want to clarify what I mean by female crises and male crises right here just briefly. I will explain in more detail towards the end of the article.

Are females today, less feminine than females 100, or 1000 years ago? The answer is a resounding no.

Are males, less masculine than men 100 or 1000 years ago? The answer is a resounding HELL YES!

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Popular rapper Pusha T reflects on Masculinity in 2015

Women have always played a different role in society since the beginning of time. Women who say, “Oh it’s 2015 let’s change that! No. This isn’t about empowering women. And there is no secret plot by men to treat you as slaves. It’s just the way it was meant to be. Men are supposed to be the sturdy oak, and women, the feminine energy, the vine.

So let us be that.

Instead of attacking men, men need more praise. I’m not talking about accomplishments etc. for old men. I’m talking about young boys. They need to be told how great they are, how great a leader they are, how powerful they are. That they have a great role to play in society!

“All reverence and admiration of the gentleman has been lost in this generation.”

In today’s society, boys are not empowered like women are empowered these days. Boys are left to grow up like girls. Women aren’t heavily dependent on role models. It’s a social construct that we’ve put in place these days with female celebrities. And ITS ACTUALLY HAVING THE OPPOSITE EFFECT OF WHAT ROLE MODELS ARE SUPPOSED TO DO! We have women like Kim Kardashian, famous for a sex tape, Miley Cyrus, famous for being a crazy ridiculous confused individual and others like these.

We would have women with a higher self-esteem if we took away these role models. Mothers and daughters have an incredible bond. That’s the way it was meant to be. But boys need role models! They need fathers. Fathers that will teach them lessons about how they are to be men and act like men, and play their role in society. But that’s not what they’re getting. The attitude today is, “let them figure it out for themselves” and you know, “women are just so oppressed in today’s society, let us pay all our attention to building up women and building up their self-esteem, and let men’s learning fall by the wayside and let them find their own way.” It makes me extremely mad!

“I ain’t never heard the word (gentleman) brought up in 10 years! In today’s society it is more taboo than sex, weed and alcohol.”

As a society we are ignoring the fact that this is even an issue and we don’t know what is wrong. We don’t know why men have no masculinity these days. Today stereotypes of men are that, they like sex, they are pedophiles, domestic abusers, drug dealers, hardened criminals. Honestly the cool thing these days is to be a badass. All reverence and admiration of the gentleman has been lost in this generation. All credit and respect… No young man growing up today will tell you they want to grow up to be a gentleman. Honestly I doubt a young boy could even tell you what a gentleman was! I ain’t never heard the word brought up in 10 years!  In today’s society it is more taboo than sex, weed and alcohol.

For real. The roles have reversed, so young men are growing up, ashamed. Ashamed that they are men. And men represent all this bad stuff. Boys grow up and either fully accept it and embody these disgusting traits or they fear it and have no alternative model to follow. They’re lost. They have lost their identity. They don’t know where to find it. They are afraid to grow up into a man. A powerful creature that they are told doesn’t know how to control himself, who will abuse alcohol and women and drugs. When men are told sex is bad, but it’s a natural response, confusion is the result. That’s what happened to masculinity.

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Now I would like to talk about the difference between the female fight and the male fight.

Right now and for a very long time there has been a human rights movement called feminism. They fight for “women’s rights.” But there has never been a meninist group. Well when I said that women are as womanly has they have ever been. You can’t say the same for men can you? You might argue oh it’s 2015, men are just evolving, becoming more modern. No. Not true.

You know why there is a female movement? See it’s not because women are made to feel like less of a woman. No, femininity is still celebrated today. No the cause of feminism, is to make women feel like more of a man. Feel more equal, and have more in common with a man. Earn what a man earns, work where a man works, dress how men dress, behave like men behave. And even worse, shame men for being men. Don’t celebrate a woman’s body. No! Promote all body sizes are beautiful! No fat shaming. This is the feminist movement.

But the problem for men, is not that we are made to feel like less of a woman! NO! Men are made to feel less like men! Women don’t understand this. You think you are fighting the same battle, but it is in fact the complete opposite!

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Influential thinker, Joe Rogan expresses his concern about male health in 2015.

This attack on men, it’s humiliating! It’s emasculating! You are stripping us of our identity! Do you think it’s easy for men to come out and say, I feel like less of a man today than my grandfather and his father? I feel like my wife walks all over me. I feel like a failure. I feel like I can’t be a man today, because it’s been labelled as a bad thing. I can’t be the provider and protector of my household and be the traditional role of the sturdy oak for my family. THAT’S why the issue has stayed silent all these years! Male suicide rates are higher than ever. More men are in prison. More men are failing in school. There are more households with without a father. Men today feel like failures. They don’t want to carry the burden of failing a kid. So they avoid it.

And when these issues are brought up, very hush hush, men’s issues don’t get brought to the table like women’s issues, no global media attention….it gets swept under the rug. The wind carries away the sound before it is reached by anyone’s ears.

It’s time, we recognised there is an issue!. And it’s time; that women stopped blaming and shaming men for being… Men.

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